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Finding Gratitude in Relationships

Loving couple

Today, I want to share a personal experience that many of us can relate to - my partner recently moved in with me after six years of being together. While it was an exciting milestone, as we love each other deeply, I must admit that adjusting to sharing my space was initially challenging.

At first, I found myself getting annoyed by some of his habits, such as not paying attention to detail, overloading extension leads with IT equipment and his refusal to throw away food items seriously beyond their best before end dates, often left me shaking my head!


However, in the midst of my frustration, I realised that it was very easy to dwell on insignificant things that, in the grand scheme of life, don't really matter! Instead, I made a conscious effort to shift my focus towards the things that I am grateful for. After all, my partner is not only my significant other but also my best friend. He is my person, who always has my best interest in mind, has brought so much love, laughter and support into my life and I am blessed to have him by my side… and my garden is a hell of a lot tidier than it has been in ages!


To help you navigate challenging moments in your relationships and cultivate a mindset of gratitude, I want to share five tips that have been invaluable on my own journey:


1. Shift Your Focus

It is natural to notice our partner's annoying habits, but dwelling on them can create unnecessary tension. Instead, consciously shift your focus towards the positive aspects of your relationship and appreciate the good. Remind yourself why you love your partner and appreciate the wonderful qualities that they have.


2. Practice Empathy

It is important to put ourselves in our partner's shoes and try to understand their perspective. Recognise that their habits may not be intentional annoyances, but rather a result of their own unique personality or upbringing. Empathy can help us approach our partner's quirks with more patience and understanding.


3. Communicate With Kindness

Instead of letting frustrations build up, communicate openly and kindly with your partner about the things that bother you. Create a safe space for dialogue and work together to find compromises that can improve both of your experiences within the shared space.


4. Practice Mindful Appreciation

Take a moment each day to reflect on the positive qualities and actions of your partner. Acknowledge their efforts, big or small and express your appreciation. This simple act of gratitude can strengthen your bond and create a positive atmosphere in your relationship.


5. Plan Your Future Together

Take some time to think about what matters most to both of you and what you want for your relationship. Create a plan that identifies the things you want to achieve together and the actions that you will take to make them happen.


Finding Gratitude in Relationships

Remember, cultivating gratitude in your relationships is an ongoing process. It requires self-awareness, hard work, patience, and a willingness to embrace the journey of growth and appreciation. By shifting your focus to what you are grateful for, you can transform challenges into opportunities for personal and relational development.


At Courage Over Comfort Coaching Ltd, we believe in the power of embracing change and finding gratitude in every aspect of life. Whether it is in your relationships, career, leadership roles, or personal wellbeing, we provide the tools and strategies to support you on your journey. If you have any questions, or would like to explore how Courage Over Comfort Coaching Ltd can support you, send us a message at today!


Wishing you a life filled with gratitude and growth!



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