Resilience is a word that you often hear, but what does resilience mean to you?
When I think of resilience, I think of the ability to deal effectively with pressure, while remaining optimistic and persistent even in the face of adversity.
Now... while optimism is great, blind optimism is unrealistic and unhelpful; therefore, during adverse situations, you need to have a realistic sense of optimism that allows you to recover from setbacks in a timely manner.
“The strongest oak in the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It is the one that stands out in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and the rains and the scorching sun.” - Napoleon Hill
Here are some of the tips that I shared during my free online Developing Resilience Event (Upcoming Events | Courage Over Comfort Coaching) that you may find useful:
#1 - Put on your own oxygen mask first
During emergencies, why are you reminded to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others?
Because you must take care of yourself first! If you are unwell, or do not have any ‘oxygen’ in your tank, you will not be able to care for anyone else. Remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup.
#2 - Sleep, diet and exercise
Sleep, diet and exercise are the foundation of our well-being, so it is essential that we have enough sleep each night, we eat a well-balanced diet, and we engage in at least 30 minutes of physical activity each day.
#3 - Be mindful of what you pay attention to
If you listen to negative news on a daily basis, you may absorb some of that negative energy and become anxious and fearful as a result. Instead, surround yourself with positive energy and pay attention to all of the things that uplift and encourage you.
#4 - Focus on your strengths
You are a unique individual, who has so many special strengths and qualities. Celebrate your strengths and develop them even further.
#5 - Reframe your thinking
Recognise when you fall into unhelpful patterns of thinking. E.g. making assumptions, generalising, catastrophising, etc.
Stop and challenge yourself to reframe your thoughts by asking yourself the following questions:
Is this thought helpful?
Is this thought based on fact or opinion?
Is there another way of looking at this situation?
#6 - Stay in touch with your values
When times are tough, remember your ‘why?’ Ensure that you revisit your values on a regular basis, as they will keep you grounded and will remind you of your moral purpose during hard times.
#7 - Define your boundaries
Although it may be hard at first, identify your boundaries and stick to them consistently. This will empower you to feel in control of your destiny and will manage others’ expectations of you.
No matter who you are, your resilience levels always benefit from a boost now and again.
Which strategy will you adopt to give your resilience a boost today?